Sunday, January 15, 2006

Islam's Ambassador: Bedier Trying to Teach not, Not Preach

Ahmed Bedier, who sparked a move to get Muslim holidays on the school calendar, works to promote understanding.

By SHERRI DAY, St. Petersburg Times, Published November 16, 2005


[Times photo: Ken Helle] Ahmed Bedier, Central Florida director of the Council on American-Islamic Relations, walks his son Jacob, back left, and his friend Laith, front left, to class. Bedier's days are busy with media interviews, helping other Muslims and taking Jacob, 9, to school every morning.


TAMPA - He sat in a conference room at Tampa General Hospital, surrounded by Christian chaplains in training. The lone Muslim in the group, Ahmed Bedier was there to teach.

"What comes to mind when you hear the word Islam or Muslim?" he asked, scanning the room. No one answered, but he knew what they wanted to say. It was okay to be offensive, he told them.

"Terrorists," several said at once. Bedier smiled.

Now they were getting somewhere. "After that, what else?" he asked.

At ease, group members spit out responses. "Oppressive," they said. "Aggressive." "Dangerous." "Uneducated."

Then it was time for Bedier, who is Central Florida director for the Council on American-Islamic Relations, CAIR, to speak. "Imagine if you put yourself in a Muslim's shoes in America these days, and you go to Wal-Mart and everybody thinks that about you. It's not a comfortable feeling."

Bedier, 31, had only just begun. He works daily to dispel stereotypes and seek equal treatment for Muslims who face discrimination. Recently, his push to include Islamic holidays on the Hillsborough County public school calendar launched a national debate. In October, when the board voted to cancel all religious holidays, Bedier was at the forefront of the discussion again, urging restoration of Judeo-Christian holidays. Muslim inclusion, he said, should not harm others. But Bedier isn't giving up. He has already vowed to try again next year. Many local Muslims are glad he's on duty. "He at least speaks and brings out their issues," said Mohammad Sultan, imam for the Islamic Society of Tampa Bay Area Mosque in Tampa. "They see at least some kind of hope."

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Born to an economist and statistician in Cairo, Bedier (pronounced Beh-DEER) immigrated with his family to the United States when he was 8. As a boy, he thought all Americans were rich. He knew about cowboys and oil tycoons from the television drama Dallas, which had aired in Cairo. The family landed in West Lafayette, Ind., where Bedier's father worked as a researcher at Purdue University. Bedier spoke Arabic and French but struggled with English. Other children made fun of him, calling him ugly names. He was often in the center of schoolyard brawls. By high school, he found popularity. A running back for the football team, he envisioned a career in the National Football League. As his family moved from one agricultural research institution to another, Bedier soaked up American culture.

When his parents returned to Egypt, Bedier and one of his three younger brothers stayed behind. They felt at home. By the time Bedier moved to St. Petersburg in 1994, he had almost forgotten his faith. In St. Petersburg, he worked as an operations manager for a dental group and eventually opened a dental laboratory. He bought two apartment buildings. By many accounts, he was successful, financially and otherwise. He enjoyed good food and spent hours at the gym. He drove a silver BMW 5 Series and fed his shopping jones at Saks Fifth Avenue. But something was missing. "I felt like I was living a fake lifestyle, like I was living to get pleasure because of what people would say about me or about what I had," Bedier said. "It wasn't fulfilling."

Seeking purpose, he began to spend more time at a mosque, the Islamic Society of Pinellas in Pinellas Park. In 2000, he vowed to read the Koran every day and committed to becoming an observant Muslim. As Bedier's faith deepened, he questioned his decision to remain in a non-Muslim country. Around him were myriad temptations. Ultimately, Bedier decided to stay - but to work on behalf of Islam and American Muslims.

He volunteered at his mosque, which eventually led to work with CAIR. His first brush with the media came after the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks. The St. Petersburg Times called his mosque to learn how it felt to be a Muslim in America in such times. Bedier offered to share his view.

When CAIR opened a Tampa office in December 2003, he became director. He sold his business, got rid of the BMW and now listens to the Koran from the CD player of a Chrysler minivan. "He's very strong in what he does," said Ibrahim Hooper, national communications director at CAIR's Washington, D.C., headquarters. "I wish I had him here in Washington, but then I don't know what we'd do in Florida."

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Ask Bedier about an issue facing Muslims, and he can speak for hours. Probe him about himself, and he shows reserve. He's happy to be in the background. He has been on television enough to want to share the spotlight with other Muslims.

Local religious and political leaders applaud his efforts. "I've been able to see his heart and know that he really is looking for peace and understanding amongst people," said Rabbi Kate Fagan, a chaplain at Bayfront Medical Center in St. Petersburg.

Hillsborough County School Board member Doretha Edgecomb has learned that Bedier is not always as serious as his subject matter. In October, she watched him deliver lighthearted banter as emcee of CAIR's banquet. "I was just really shocked," she said. "I had not seen that side of him. The next time we need a funny emcee, I'm going to remember him."

Bedier so impressed the Rev. William Baugh, director of pastoral care at Tampa General Hospital, that the minister invited him to conduct hospital-wide diversity training.

Even people who disagree with Bedier wind up speaking well of him. Hillsborough County Commissioner Brian Blair, who supported the restoration of a Judeo-Christian public school calendar, calls him a "nice person" and a "gentleman." "He smiles a lot, and he says he loves Jesus," Blair said, noting Bedier's explanation that Muslims revere Jesus, too.

After meeting Bedier, Pinellas Park resident Mike Allen temporarily withdrew an anti-Islamic display from his yard. It featured a toilet and a promise to flush the Koran to protest terrorism. Allen said he took it down because he thought Bedier was a nice person. "That Ahmed Bedier, he could charm the socks off a rooster," Allen said. "He doesn't raise his voice or fly off the handle. He's married and got kids and all that. He's not going to be strapping bombs on his kids. I'm sure he would never condone that."

Norm Gross, head of the media watchdog group Promoting Responsibility in Middle East Reporting, expresses admiration for Bedier's delivery, but questions CAIR's motives. "We're asking questions that we'd like to get answers to, and we haven't been able to," Gross said. "What is his mission? Who funds him? Let them tell us." Bedier said he has nothing to hide and maintains that he is simply an activist dedicated to integrating Muslims into the mainstream.

CAIR's 31 local chapters are funded by private donors. By no means, he says, does he or CAIR condone terrorism. Repeatedly, the organization has publicly denounced terrorist attacks.

Bedier sees himself as a regular guy. He is a car-pool dad who drives his son, Jacob, to school; a devoted husband who watches reality TV with his wife, Kelly; a father who must protect his family, including 2-year-old Amira, from harm. As a precaution, he has an unlisted phone number and gets his mail at a post office box. Strangers once accosted his wife at Wal-Mart. Bloggers disparage him on the Internet.

Bedier accepts his call to activism and has no plan to back down. "I'm doing it because I have to, not necessarily because I want to," Bedier said. "There's a lot of work that needs to be done, and Muslims are now feeling empowered. They know that somebody's got their back."

source: http://www.sptimes.com/2005/11/16/Tampabay/Trying_to_teach__not_.shtml

7 comments:

Max Cohen said...

YOU ARE FOOLING NO ONE

We recognize you for what you are and for whom you represent. The greatist danger to world piece and to Western Civilization is Radical Islam.

There are far too many Americans, Christians, and other Jews, for that matter, who fail to recognize that the threat to our very lives is Radical Islam.

We are at war Ladies and Gentlemen and make no mistake about it, we are looked upon by radical Islam with no more empathy or respect than they would accord a cockroach. They feel no sorrow or guilt when we are stepped on and crushed, like a bug. Non-moslems are infidels and therefore sub-human.

Unless Christians and Jews unite in this war against those in this world who seek our destruction, they will, in the end, be victorious. Radical Islam is infiltrating Democratic countries throughout the West. They are multiplying like rabbits (or cockroaches if you prefer) and are extremely patient (which we are not).

Our lack of patience and our American quest for instant results could very well be our downfall. Our enemies have looked at our history and they know that "If you bleed the Americans, they will run (pack their bags and go home). They also know that we have a history of abandoning our allies when the going gets rough.

So think about whether or not you want your children and grand-children bowing to Mecca, or if we should accept the inevitable costs in material and more importantly, the youth of America, and fight to preserve our way of life - FREEDOM.

Marcella said...

Ahmed,

I don't subscribe to the daily SP Times but fortunately happened to catch yesterday's article by that misled goofball(they didn't give his website and I forgot his name) who is acting like a vigilante and from the article it sounds like he is actually spreading more hate and misunderstanding stemming from trying to resolve his own dysfunctional childhood experiences.

I have heard you many times on WMNF 88.5 FM True Talk and heard you speak at several events including the "Three Faiths, One God" put on by the Serving the One group last November.

You and Samar do so much to promote understanding between the various faiths and congratulations for speaking out and not letting this wahoo define who you are.

People need to check out www.reopen911.org and look a little deeper into the events he and so many others so quickly attribute to Muslims. I guess it is a fact of life that there are "bad apples" falling from the trees of all religions but it is unfortunate that Muslims have been so lumped into one big mis-understanding of one size fits all kind of thinking so you certainly have your plate full.

I am so sadden by this but all we can do is keep on keeping on and continue to try to dispell the myths caused by miopic vision, lack of education and propaganda.

I hope the various community faiths will continue to ask PBS through WUSF Tampa 33620 to reshow that wonderful film: Three Faiths One God: Judaism, Christianity, Islam as it is obvious there needs to be a greater understanding that the similarities between all religions are much greater than the minor and mostly cultural differences.

Ahmed Bedier said...

Max Cohen, you have some radical hateful views. The likes of you is part of the reason I wake up every morning and go to work in order to reach out and build bridges of understanding.

Folks ignorance leads to fear.

Jenn said...

Yes, there is a lot of work to be done in educating people like Max Cohen about the truth.

For example, where did he hear that non-Muslims were sub-human? I was never taught that as a Muslim. I was taught the opposite in fact...to respect and honor all human beings (and animals and plants) as a creation of God. To disrespect another human would be disrespecting God. Only God can judge us.

Alex said...

To "Max Cohen", you seem to be a prime example of the foul people that are holding back any kind of forward progress of acceptance that this country is in dire need of. You seem to be deeply disturbed at the very least.
You can not simply blame the people of an entire religion because of the terrorist actions that have sadly befallen this world. To simply hate each and every innocent man, woman, and child who belong to a particular faith and label them under a veil of your own personal ignorance and hate is inhuman and despicable.
As a Christian myself, I can say that I am utterly revolted and horrified by the way you so easily incorporated my faith into your deplorable call for more hate and violence.
Honestly, I fear your kind more then what you call a "Radical Islam infiltration".
Know that hate begets hate, and no good will EVER come from such actions or libel. You are simply a detriment to society and I hope that someday you will be able to look past your internal problems, and see clearly the error of your ways.

Alex said...

Your actions that are presented here can only be described as commendable. There is much healing and mending yet to be completed in the country before we can take the first steps toward the true meaning of peace, liberty, and the American way.
For most, ignorance and hate are easy to turn to when presented with all of the inter-national turmoil we hear about everyday. And when the youngest are given incompetent role models we all fail. There is no easy way to remedy our faults as a Nation, but to show action(as you have Mr. Bedier) lets the world see that there are indeed two sides to this coin we call America.
Some believe hate has no boundaries and are neglectful to it or even advocate it. But the good people like yourself, that are striving in anyway possible to promote humanitarianism and integrity among the citizens can lay down walls of acceptance to halt the hate... to counteract the pervasive ignorance.

Ahmed Bedier said...

Dear Alex,
Thank you for your thoughtful words. I like other people of conscience, am trying to do my part. There are those in our world who prefer hatred and division over unity.

We can't be discouraged, we have to work together and make the effort to change our condition.

I believe that with the help of God we will overcome the negative obstacles Inshallah (God Willing).